Sudden willingness to get married?

Met a friend today; he is in his 40s, and for the near-5 years that I’ve known him, he has maintained a stance of “I don’t want to get married”.

Maybe it’s an age thing, that he’s past the urge to get married age… as well as definitely a personal preference thing.

I’ve seen him go through serious, long, relationships. Steady, yet, he doesn’t want to get married. And it was an agreed consensus between him and his partner, so it’s not a big issue, but it’s something that he was strongly against.

Today, he told me he is getting married. That caught me by surprise. To a new girlfriend, whom he has been dating for a few months.

Years of relationship, a so-far lifetime of not wanting to get married, and suddenly, all that changes.

He cannot fathom why either. I reasoned – perhaps he’s just never met someone he wanted to get married to until now, that, this sudden change in mindset, is because she’s “the one”.

The short length of the relationship, coupled with the desire to get married… is a 180 degree turn around. Yet, it is happening, it happened, they are planning to get married.

A living proof of – it’s not about the quantity of time, it’s the quality of time; and when you find the one, you will know.


Part of a Proposal

Today, I, and around 80 other people, came together to help a mutual friend propose to his girlfriend.

We all met through a game. One that requires us to meet in person, interact, and come out together to play. So it’s an interesting group; large in numbers, but we all know each other, or at least linked by first or second degree in some way.

Although the original plan went a bit awry, all was well at the end of the day as we converged on the unsuspecting lady, and he popped the question and she said yes.

It’s quite sweet, especially since they met through the game, and we saw the start of the relationship to now.

Today, I feel celebratory, and of course, happy, for the newly engaged couple 🙂

Upcoming wedding bells

Today, Gordon shared a photo; his proposal was a success!

Interesting, this follows from Yoko’s proposal only about two weeks ago.

Back in the days, we would together cook simple meals, and just have a good time hanging out together. Time and life separated us into three different countries.

But life goes on. And they have found their own respective happiness. For that, I am very happy for them and wish them a very blissful life ahead.

Kicking off 2017 with a Wedding

I can honestly say that I am not a fan of weddings. Why, you may ask…

Well for starters, it’s another big reminder that I still have a long way to go before I can even foresee me doing mine, I may feel obligated to go… (for close acquaintances), and setting an afternoon or evening aside for the occasion. (Kinda sound like a wedding Grinch, but at about this age… most people I know are getting or have already gotten married.)

But yesterday, I went to attend one of my best friend’s wedding. It had been really touching and emotional. This wedding had meant more than usual to me because I had been a witness of their entire relationship journey. From when they first met, to the series of occasional squabbles they may have. And now, they have finally tied the knot… which is the perfect start for the next chapter of their lives together.

I really enjoyed myself this time around because it was a well organized wedding.
A semi Western/Chinese wedding, with dancing, speeches, and great food with some old and new friends. The day had been rather tiring but definitely a great day~~~