Sudden willingness to get married?

Met a friend today; he is in his 40s, and for the near-5 years that I’ve known him, he has maintained a stance of “I don’t want to get married”.

Maybe it’s an age thing, that he’s past the urge to get married age… as well as definitely a personal preference thing.

I’ve seen him go through serious, long, relationships. Steady, yet, he doesn’t want to get married. And it was an agreed consensus between him and his partner, so it’s not a big issue, but it’s something that he was strongly against.

Today, he told me he is getting married. That caught me by surprise. To a new girlfriend, whom he has been dating for a few months.

Years of relationship, a so-far lifetime of not wanting to get married, and suddenly, all that changes.

He cannot fathom why either. I reasoned – perhaps he’s just never met someone he wanted to get married to until now, that, this sudden change in mindset, is because she’s “the one”.

The short length of the relationship, coupled with the desire to get married… is a 180 degree turn around. Yet, it is happening, it happened, they are planning to get married.

A living proof of – it’s not about the quantity of time, it’s the quality of time; and when you find the one, you will know.

Part of a Proposal

Today, I, and around 80 other people, came together to help a mutual friend propose to his girlfriend.

We all met through a game. One that requires us to meet in person, interact, and come out together to play. So it’s an interesting group; large in numbers, but we all know each other, or at least linked by first or second degree in some way.

Although the original plan went a bit awry, all was well at the end of the day as we converged on the unsuspecting lady, and he popped the question and she said yes.

It’s quite sweet, especially since they met through the game, and we saw the start of the relationship to now.

Today, I feel celebratory, and of course, happy, for the newly engaged couple 🙂

For now…

Piggy backing off my last piece, I came to realize the other day that I am surrounded by married couples. My colleagues, my friends… it just seemed that it wasn’t too long ago that people I generally interact with were all just like me. But it’s to be expected isn’t it? You know… as we all grow older, we move from one chapter of life to the other and we dive in to make the most of what this stage of our lives has to offer.

I remember in my late twenties, I questioned myself quite often. Why can’t I find that special someone… ??? Like my friends, like my colleagues… some have already been together for a decade already… something that is beyond fathomable and understanding in my mind. I didn’t feel like I was missing out. I wanted to make my own story… but looking at them from the third person angle, it just seemed so easy compared to the challenges I was facing. As I grew wiser, I realized that the problem lied with me, but it was okay because I knew that they just weren’t right for me.

Later last week, I was reflecting back about my experiences over the past few years, few months, and the last few weeks. It was then that I felt happy. I was glad that I am single at this stage of my life. Because I am not attached, I have the opportunity to meet more friends. I have the freedom to go where I like, do what I want to do, and sleep as late as I want in the weekends. Okay… maybe not the last bit because I still have to get up and attend the brunches I have with some friends, haha…

I can honestly say to myself, I am enjoying where I am right now… for now…