Met a friend today; he is in his 40s, and for the near-5 years that I’ve known him, he has maintained a stance of “I don’t want to get married”.
Maybe it’s an age thing, that he’s past the urge to get married age… as well as definitely a personal preference thing.
I’ve seen him go through serious, long, relationships. Steady, yet, he doesn’t want to get married. And it was an agreed consensus between him and his partner, so it’s not a big issue, but it’s something that he was strongly against.
Today, he told me he is getting married. That caught me by surprise. To a new girlfriend, whom he has been dating for a few months.
Years of relationship, a so-far lifetime of not wanting to get married, and suddenly, all that changes.
He cannot fathom why either. I reasoned – perhaps he’s just never met someone he wanted to get married to until now, that, this sudden change in mindset, is because she’s “the one”.
The short length of the relationship, coupled with the desire to get married… is a 180 degree turn around. Yet, it is happening, it happened, they are planning to get married.
A living proof of – it’s not about the quantity of time, it’s the quality of time; and when you find the one, you will know.